Turn uncertainty into security

You aren’t alone

Divorce is often a scary and isolating time but it doesn’t have to be. Having the company and compassion of qualified professionals at your side can help you financially and emotionally.

The financial decisions you make now will follow you long after a divorce is finalized.

Count on our team of professionals to have YOUR family’s best interests at heart. Together, we can help you overcome this hurdle in life with confidence.

With respect to divorce settlements, what may appear fair today, often does not result in being an equitable solution years down the road. Know that we are dedicated to advocating on your behalf, helping you move on with a level of self-assurance, and into the next chapter of life.

At inception, assisting and empowering women through their divorce was our team’s vision. But we’ve learned that the right solution is really much bigger than that - - being gender neutral and working together with divorcing families to reach a fair outcome for all parties, especially if young children are involved. Divorcing spouses all seem to have one thing in common - - never wanting the children to suffer or see the dysfunction in the relationship.

The dissolution of marriage may have some dark moments, but leveraging a qualified CDFA® professional and qualified team of experts to support you during your divorce can better ensure that it does not end that way.

Why Use A CDFA®

 Working with your attorney, we’ll be in alignment, looking out for you and your future resources. We pride ourselves in strong communication and providing an education experience, thereby helping you gain greater clarity on your new financial reality.

We have a comprehensive approach to divorce finances and can assist with:

 Weighing the future impact of settlement offers on both parties

 Inventorying and helping you create the marital balance sheet, while uncovering potential hidden assets and liabilities

 Why use a CDFA®?Help with forensic accounting

 QDRO Assistance

 Valuing present value and future value of pension benefits and other investment based accounts

 Identifying inconsistencies in financial information

 Preparing future budgets

 Determining earning capabilities

 Understanding and navigating through potential tax liabilities, particularly those which may have been “strategically hidden” within a settlement proposal

Learn more about the CDFA® designation by visiting the following links:

IDFA (Institute for Divorce Financial Analysts)

FINRA (Financial Industry Regulatory Authority)

Mission Statement

Our mission is to instill confidence in our divorcing clients through one of the most difficult times in their lives. We provide you with quality financial expertise, compassionate communication and support you with a qualified team of professionals you can trust. We will get through this together, every step of the way.

Our Clients Say

"You made an uncomfortable situation much easier for me. Thank you so much for your thoughtful guidance and support."

"I could not have gotten through it without your team. Your kind assistance throughout the process was greatly appreciated."

The Process

Just three steps to peace of mind

1 Step Onea CONFIDENTIAL consultation, IN PRIVATE (with or without your attorney).

We work together to understand the potential monetary Dangers you are facing.

We outline the scope of our engagement and discuss our easy fee-for-service business model and next steps.

2 Step TwoReview important documents, create a marital balance sheet and discuss your vision of the future - post-divorce.

Your divorce does not have to be a time of uncertainty. Working together, we’ll have complete clarity on where you stand with personal finances and greater confidence for the future.

With our help, you might better manage expectations and identify prudent answers to questions such as:

Should I keep the House?

Will I have enough to live on?

How do I know if my spouse’s proposal is fair?

What happens if the ex-spouse passes away?

3 Step ThreeMaking decisions with confidence.

We’ll help you understand the ramifications of any divorce settlement offers, including the impact they may have on your long-term finances.

While the future may appear to be uncertain, we think you can have peace of mind in understanding your financial security.

 We want your money and your vision of the future to be in alignment!

Just the Beginning

Our team’s assistance does not stop once a divorce is finalized.

The financial decisions you make now will follow you long after a divorce is finalized.

Although our role in serving as your CDFA® may come to an end, this is really just the beginning of the relationship with your new team of advisors. Making sure your finances are in line with the next phase of your life, you’ll want to work with our team’s board Certified Financial Planner™ professional to help manage the QDRO process, identifying appropriate accounts for the transition of funds and to continue with your specific wealth management priorities in the future.

Your financial security and confidence years after the divorce is important to us!

Our Typical Client Profile:

Marital household income > $250K

Marital liquid net worth > $1M (includes retirement, pension, stocks, savings & investments)

Potential ownership of multiple real estate holdings (e.g., vacation property / second home(s), investment real estate or commercial property, etc.)

Ownership and/or partnership in a private company

Ownership or Lease of luxury assets (i.e., collectible vehicles, RV, yacht, plane, etc.)

Your Team

A team you can trust to guide you towards the future you deserve, The Company of Divorce has your back.

We are a team of mid-career professionals dedicated to helping you receive a fair settlement and maintain peace of mind. We’ll keep you “company” throughout this emotionally trying time.

We are a team of mid-career professionals dedicated to helping you receive a fair settlement and maintain peace of mind.What sets us apart from other CDFA® professionals is our comprehensive, team-based approach. A CPA, health counselor, mortgage broker, and insurance agent are all “on deck” to assist with every aspect of planning, including a highly qualified board Certified Financial Planner for life and finances after divorce.

We work to compliment the services of your attorney and can even refer you to one if necessary.

The Company of Divorce was founded by Alyssa vonLindenberg and her husband, Chris. Having lived through her parent’s divorce as a child, Alyssa saw firsthand how divorce affects an individual’s and a household’s financial picture for any years after a divorce is finalized. Chris is the CEO of a successful financial services company, earning his CDFA® designation, further complimenting his resume and professional qualifications.

Together, the couple identified the unique opportunity to assist the often under-privileged survivors of divorce, the individuals and family members who really didn’t have a voice or control over household finances. The duo worked to form strategic partnerships throughout the 2000’s with other industry leading professionals that make up your new personal financial team - - working in concert to better aid with ALL aspects of personal finance.

Alyssa vonLindenberg - Founder, The Company of DivorceAlyssa vonLindenberg


More than your initial point-of-contact, Alyssa keeps you “company” throughout our process and at each step of the way, aligning our team members with your specific priorities. Helping people feel more financially secure while going through a rough and uncertain time is something she finds to be personally rewarding.

A good listener and a calming presence, Alyssa lived through her parents’ divorce, seeing how even smart people can make less than optimal decisions with money, when faced with an emotionally draining time.

After earning her Bachelor’s degree from Salisbury University and a Master’s from Wilmington University, Alyssa continued her studies with mediation training. She’s a member of Women's Business Connection of Chester County and the Pennsylvania Council of Mediators. Alyssa has worked in the insurance and financial services industry since 2009.

When not helping clients, Alyssa is usually with her three children watching them participate in sports and activities. In her free time, she loves visiting the Delaware beaches and working out in various group exercise classes. Alyssa is a member of Delta Gamma Fraternity and serves on the board of the Kennett Education Foundation.

Christopher vonLindenberg, Certified Divorce Financial Analyst®Christopher "Chris" vonLindenberg, CDFA®

Certified Divorce Financial Analyst®

A great communicator, a financial services industry leader, devoted father to 3 amazing kids and a spouse.

Since 2001, Chris has worked directly with clients in the financial services industry, having also experienced how the uncertainty of divorce can be exaggerated by feelings of isolation and fueled with emotion. He is mindful that ALL relationships require transparency, sometimes a little extra initiative and always maintaining open communication for trust to be maintained.

For families whom rely upon our team, Chris recognizes that the stakes are often very high. Personal finance is sometimes an uncomfortable matter, but it’s also an area providing opportunity and strength for many of our clients as they take the next steps forward.

Putting you in control and helping you navigate through a divorce settlement that remains equitable for years to come is Chris’ top priority. He is driven and maintains a positive, can-do attitude; for certain, he’s full of passion and someone you’d want advocating on your behalf.

In his free time, Chris enjoys creating memorable experiences and exploring new horizons with his family, often on or close to the water.

For Attorneys

Financial expertise for a stronger case and more satisfied clients

 Having a Certified Divorce Financial Analyst® on your team can complement your law expertise by helping ensure that your client is covered when it comes to your guidance through important financial decisions.

We are here to help. Working hand in hand directly with you and your client to assist the case and towards achieving a fair settlement.

A CDFA® can prepare financial projections to clearly show the effect of any settlement. We understand after tax implications and can show both parties their financial position regarding division of assets, child support, and net worth projections. A CDFA® can also be valuable as an expert witness should your case go to trial.

Having a Certified Divorce Financial Analyst® on your team can complement your law expertise by helping ensure that your client is covered when it comes to your guidance through important financial decisions.Services for attorneys include:

 discover support

 net worth and cash flow statements

 pension valuations

 alimony recapture

 child contingency rule analysis

 expert witness

 determine income capabilities to the check mark list

Sleep well

Litigation comes with the territory, yes…

But we don’t want you or any of our partners to risk being called “defendant” in your professional capacity. We believe working together helps build stronger cases for your client relationships and can reduce the risk of errors. Call it peace of mind. You’re a class-act for knowing one’s limitations and in turn have also done a good, thorough job for your client.

Expert witness

Our co-founder and CDFA®’s resume speaks for itself…

We hold ourselves to a very high professional standard and maintain an exemplary record. Our goal, however, is to avoid the risk of costly litigation. If you’d like to know more about our resume and industry qualifications or background, just ask. You won’t be disappointed.

FAQs & Glossary

  Divorce is an emotionally draining time. Having an objective professional to help guide you can make a big difference.

  How can a CDFA® help?

A CDFA® can value the marital home and assets. They can help determine the best way to divide retirement accounts and assist in planning and budgeting for life after the divorce. A CDFA® helps couples or individuals understand their financial reality during and after divorce.

 Can you work with me and my spouse?

If spouses are amicable it is a great idea to work together.

 What if I don’t yet have an attorney?

We are happy to refer you to one. Often, people meet with us first. We can explain your options (mediation/litigation/collaboration) and work with you regardless of where you are in the divorce process.

 What is "marital property?"

Marital property (in most states) includes all property acquired during the marriage. In some states, the increase in value of separate property is also considered marital.

 My spouse always handled our finances. What if I don't understand what we have?

We specialize in helping you understand your financial picture and aligning your expectations with your new financial reality so you can move forward with confidence.

 If I have primary custody of the kids shouldn't I keep the house?

The answer to this depends on many factors (current economic conditions, taxes, inflation). A CDFA® is specifically trained to look at the whole picture and determine what makes the most sense financially.

Top Ten Divorce Terms to Know

One of the many things that makes divorce such a complicated and notoriously confusing business is the array of new terms, acronyms, and phrases tossed around throughout the process.

Divorce has its own language, and it is important to be able to talk the talk with family lawyers, judges, collaborative divorce professionals, and clients.

 Here are 10 divorce terms to jumpstart your journey to divorce literacy.

A court ruling earmarking a portion of a person’s retirement or pension fund payments to be paid to his or her ex-spouse as part of a division of marital assets.

A Qualified Domestic Relations Order (QDRO) is an order from the court that says how an employee’s retirement plan should be divided up between the employee and his or her ex-spouse. The QDRO should include how much to allocate to each spouse, when the non-employee spouse can start receiving benefits, and what happens when either party dies. The details of retirement plans can be incredibly tricky, so it’s important to have an attorney or experienced professional draft the QDRO.

Key document used to collect financial data, including all income, expenses, assets, and liabilities.

The financial affidavit is the backbone of any divorce settlement. Full disclosure and accuracy are imperative, but it is also important to note that the affidavit changes frequently as new information comes to light. This document may sound straightforward, but it can be surprising how many people are not involved in family finances and are ill-prepared to compile the necessary information.

The Consolidated Omnibus Budget Reconciliation Act (COBRA) law passed in 1986. It allows an ex-spouse to continue to receive health insurance coverage from his or her former spouse’s employer for up to three years after the divorce.

This federal law is a nice safety net for divorcing individuals who are on their ex-spouse’s insurance plan. However, premiums for COBRA coverage are often higher than when they were covered under the employer’s plan. Particularly with subsidies available under the Affordable Care Act, you should be sure to shop around to make sure you’re getting the best option.

A state in which any property not deemed “separate” (i.e., owned before marriage or obtained by gift or inheritance) is “community” property and will likely be subject to a 50/50 division.

The way that assets are divided in divorce depends on the property division statutes of the state. There are currently eight states that have community property statutes: Arizona, California, Idaho, Louisiana, Nevada, New Mexico, Texas, and Washington.

A state where settlements divide property based on a number of considerations to achieve an equitable and fair distribution – not necessarily an equal one.

The remaining 42 states (those that are not community property states) have equitable distribution statutes. In these states, property is divided based on many factors, including the length of the marriage and differences in age, wealth, earning potential, and health of the partners involved. This forgoes the idea that settlements should always be 50/50 and attempts to create a fair post-divorce situation.

Court ruling on division of property, spousal support, and responsibility to children when a couple wishes to separate but not divorce.

Couples may want pursue a legal separation rather than a divorce for several reasons, including religious principals, medical or insurance issues, or simply not wishing to be divorced. The state of Texas is the only state not to recognize legal separations.

A rule that comes into effect if spousal support payments decrease more than $15,000 during the first three post-divorce years. If an individual paying spousal support is found to be in violation of recapture rules, the “excess spousal support” must be included in the payor’s taxable income in the third post-divorce year.

One of the more confusing and easy-to-forget rules related to divorce, recapture can be a huge tax problem for individuals paying spousal support. The Tax Reform Act of 1984 created this rule to prevent a property settlement payment (which is fully taxable for the payor) from being disguised as spousal support (which is tax-deductible for the payor).

Temporary financial support given to an ex-spouse until they are able to earn sufficient income to support themselves.

Rehabilitative maintenance became popular as a way to give ex-spouses a transition period. It is unrealistic to expect a lower wage-earning or stay-at-home spouse to immediately be able to earn enough income to support an entire household. Rehabilitative maintenance gives these individuals a chance to return to school or the workforce and transition into breadwinner status.

A note from the payor to the payee for an agreed-upon length of time with a reasonable interest rate.

These notes are a tool in dividing property between spouses. If one spouse wishes to keep an asset that tips the scales in his or her favor (such as the marital home), a property settlement note can be drawn up to achieve an equitable settlement.

The section of the IRS code that allows an alternate payee to receive a one-time distribution from a retirement plan without having to pay a 10% tax penalty.

This little-known piece of the tax code can provide a great source of relief for individuals who received some part of their ex-spouse’s retirement plan in the divorce settlement. This one-time, penalty-free early distribution can help in establishing a post-divorce life, whether that’s buying a new car, renting a new apartment, or paying to go back to school. It should be noted that ordinary income tax does apply to this distribution.

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